Tuesday, February 23, 2010

The Right Thing

A quick thought on ethics today.  Here's how I try to live my life....the golden rule.  Do to others as you would have done to you.  This rule almost always applies (hey, I used to work with lots of lawyers so I can't ever state something without putting the "disclaimer" word in - almost, typically, usually, generally etc.) in almost all situations, personal and business.  Would I like it if someone did that to me?  What are the consequences?  Could I live with myself knowing that I potentially screwed another person?  Even if I'm mad as hell, the rule always applies.  Focus.  Take a deep breath.  And do the right thing.  

I am now confronted with a former colleague that is just not doing the right thing.  In fact, he is stealing!!!  I can't even begin to describe my disgust over this situation.  You go from thinking that an individual is good although misguided and then discover that person is downright bad.  Evil even.  Or just plain crazy.  All of the above.  And certainly not living by the golden rule.  

While this situation is being dealt with, here's what I am hoping for.  Karma.  What comes around goes around (or the other way around).  It's not my behavior that will lead to consequences for this individual.  He will have to answer for his own behavior.  To himself, his colleagues, his higher power, etc.  And good luck to him with that.  Stealing for goodness sakes.  STEALING! And taking advantage of others.  Holding other peoples property as hostage.

A good friend asked me today what I have learned from this situation, and I'm just not sure.  What have I learned?  Maybe nothing.  Maybe everything.  But what this situation has done is cemented what I am about.  What I would do in a situation.  What I have done.  And I would never take the path that this individual has taken.  I live my life and I do right by myself and by others.  Integrity.  And I would never put anyone in the situation that this person has.  I can go to sleep every night knowing that I have put my best out there: in training, in coaching, in friendship, in parenting, in love.  And that's just the way I want to be.  

So, I have put this post "out there".  Take it for what you will dear readers.  It's kind of funny (not), but I have been relatively uninspired lately to post or maybe I just don't have that much to say right now.  But this.  This demanded attention. It demanded thought at the keyboard.  I am a somewhat private person (yes, I know, I blog!!) and this blog was a tool for me to just let go and write.  About silly things.  About training.  About racing.  About my family.  And now, about things that just piss me off.  Take it for what it is dear readers....and I promise, next post will be much more lighthearted!!

'Nuf said. 

I love wikipedia:

The Golden Rule is an ethical code that states one has a right to just treatment, and a responsibility to ensure justice for others. It is also called the ethic of reciprocity. It is arguably the most essential basis for the modern concept of human rights, though it has its critics.[2] A key element of the golden rule is that a person attempting to live by this rule treats all people, not just members of his or her in-group, with consideration. The Golden rule appears to have anevolutionary basis, see Reciprocity (evolution).

Karma (Sanskrit: कर्म <11px-Loudspeaker.svg.png> kárma kárman- "act, action, performance"[1]Palikamma) in Indian religions is the concept of "action" or "deed", understood as that which causes the entire cycle of cause and effect (i.e., the cycle called saṃsāra) originating in ancient India and treated in HinduJainSikh and Buddhist philosophies.[2]


Tyler Walton said...

So, how do you really feel! I am not sure the deal LE O but I hope all goes well and ends well.

triAndrea said...

You are good people girl! Karma is always a part of the deal and from my vantage point karma continues to come to those who do not play fair and those who only give to receive.

Remember to keep a smile on your face and hold your head high. I admire you.

Christy said...

I dunno the deal. But, we've had similar. Jim believed it wasn't worth our time even though we have friends/family as partners/attorneys. In the end Karma hurt them, years later. In the end, it was sad to see how they hurt themselves. Jim was right. It would have been waisted time/energy on our part. Hurt/anger were normal feelings. In time those feelings decreased. Hang in their and have fun training thru it.

Christy said...

p.s. i love using music that gets it out of my system. I use my daughter's music :) Hang in there. Later.